This was our dinner conversation tonight. We talked about death, and when my sister died. Jonathan sort of remembered talking about her in the past, for Savannah it was all new, and she took it pretty hard. I think what upset her the most was the fact that Krystal never had anything. Savannah was shocked that she was 0 years old, she never had a bike, or a birthday, or got to play on a playground.
She asked if the next time we went back to Abilene we could visit her grave( thus starting the tombstone conversation). Savannah asked me what I would have put on my tombstone, and I said it isn't up to me it's up to Daddy. So I asked Jason want he would put.....My sweet husband couldn't even spit out what he would put on there. He was able to say "devoted mot.." then couldn't go on. It was humbling. After a few more tries and no more luck getting anything out he decided he didn't want to talk about it anymore!
It's something to think about though. Are you going to leave it up to your spouse or children to chose or do you want to do it yourself? I know we all think we are so young, and it's something we don't have to think about, but tomorrow isn't guaranteed.
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Unfortunately, it is something we all should think about. Sean and I had a similar conversation shortly before he deployed, more along the lines of where to be buried though. I was so worried when he went 5 years ago b/c he never wanted to discuss it then. But since we had the discussion this time, I feel so much better b/c I'll know what to do should the worst ever happen.
With my job, every time someone dies and my family knows about it, this conversation becomes inevitable at my home. It is tough, but very important to talk about.
I've never wanted a tombstone. I want my body donated to science, have a memorial service to celebrate the wonderful life I had and talk to me through your heart for the rest of your days. No grave site, no rock, it's only rotting flesh - when my body is done my spirit still lives, that's all that matters.
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