Jason's mom stopped in for a surprise visit. Quite literally. He walked out of work today and there she was standing next to his car. As anyone who has been my friend for more than a day knows, Jason has never had a great relationship with his mom and it's only gotten worse over the past year and a half. Jason rarely returns her calls, and doesn't have much to say to her.
She flew all the way here "b/c it was killing her they weren't talking and she wanted to set things straight". When in all actuality she made things way worse! She basically chose a relationship with someone Jason despises over a relationship with Jason. He said she literally looked dumbfounded when he told her that pursuit of that relationship would have consequences.
In past few months she has refused to acknowledge Harrison. Today Jason asked her why she isn't excited about him. Do you know what she said?? She gave some lame ass excuse about reading on the blog and not hearing it from him. Did she find out from the blog? YES. Did Jason try to talk to her about him? YES. He talked to her the day we found out he was a boy , did she have anything to say? Nope. Since then he has mentioned "getting ready for baby" to which she promptly changes the subject.
But the real kicker is this:
She wanted to take him back to PA and put him in a treatment facility, b/c she thinks he is so depressed and off his rocker. She said nobody in their right mind would cut off family the way he has. Well, if your family is disloyal, secretive, conniving, untrustworthy and refuses to acknowledge your wife and the child growing in her...well I say you'd be crazy to stick around.
She had the opportunity to stay and watch one of Jonathan's football games, but she chose to go back to OKC early so she could meet up with her new best friend! Priorities, priorities!!
It bothers me more than it bothers Jason. He says he's used to it and almost expects it from her. He's never felt he was #1 in her life and the trend is just continuing. I love Jason and my children so much that of course I want to protect them and keep them safe. The children will be affected. They will no longer go to PA in the summers, she will have to come visit them here. And if she continues to ignore Harrison it could get worse. She will not be allowed to send gifts to only 2 of my 3 children. As much as Jason says he's used to it, it still has to hurt to know that your mother is picking a relationship with someone else instead of a relationship with you and your children. She is the one who is missing out, but it still makes me sad for Jason, Jonathan, Savannah, and Harrison.
I feel a little better now, maybe I can get some sleep :O)
4 comments:
Wow! She wants to put him in a treatment facility? Him? She should put herself in one. She is the one chosing other people over family.
Wow, i guess we all have our Alicia/Motherinlaw....
She has a lot of balls, huh? To show up completely unannounced and tries to put him in a treatment faciltiy? I think you are handling it the right way, but yes, it must hurt Jason a little, even though he says it doesn't. Love you guys!
I love you guys! I wish you didn't have to go through this. And everyone else is right - she's the one who should be in a treatment facility - who chooses strangers over family? Sounds like crazy to me!
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